Round and Round I go…


where I will stop nobody knows.  Remember that childhood game?


It was the first thing that popped into my head when I was thinking about what to title this blog post.  I should have titled it “Forgive me Father for I have sinned” it has been 1.5 years since my last Diet Coke.  As I wake up this morning I feel like my body is going to pop like a balloon.  Some how during the night I gained weight or maybe its inflammation but to me it is still weight and of all days I am going for my annual Gyno appointment.  Geez, the timing could not be worse because I hate getting on the scales and having my current weight written down in the book of life for an entire year!

When I go today, I know I will ask the same question I ask every year as the nurse tells me “You weigh X number pounds today”.  Then I will say, “What did I weigh last year?” If the weight is less, I will walk out feeling like a winner even if it is one pound less I will be proud of myself for keeping it under control during the past year.  If the weight is more, I will walk out feeling like a loser and the thought of why I can’t maintain the same weight number will have me bummed the entire day.  I am not a medical expert on health or anything related, but I have my own opinions based on how I feel and what I have learned on the Internet about health, weight, healthy eating, you name it I have tried to read it or buy the book.  My BFF calls me the Google Queen.  If I want to know something, I look it up on the world wide web and this past year I have been an avid learner about a lot of things that are changing in my life especially my health.

As I find myself now over 50, I have began to try to get my priorities in order regarding my life.  No, I am not talking about writing a will, but maybe that is not a bad idea.  I should call it a life will.  I should be holding myself accountable by writing down my goals just as they teach us in a 1000 business classes.  Healthy eating and a healthy lifestyle is huge on my list but it hasn’t become a commitment I can stick to YET.  I have realized with my children grown and living on their own the only person I have to take care of is ME.  Why am I so slack about this?  Maybe it is because I work a lot or I still try to do what I can to help my children but none of this is entirely true.  My work has steadied and my children don’t really need me anymore so the truth is I am just lazy and not committed.  Yes – I admit it.  I admit it out loud!  I have a lack of commitment when it comes to my health.  I try and fail.  I get on the wagon and I fall off the wagon.  It is always a hard fall, but it is always a hard start too.  My health and fitness coach does a weekly Facebook post asking to check in.  I have not checked in for a very long time.  I know she knows I am off the wagon right now.  When you are not being accountable, you are in hiding.  So let’s just say for the past 3 months I have been hiding out.

There are a couple of things I have learned about myself in the past 1.5 years.  It is hard being single when it comes to food.  When you live alone, you don’t want to cook for one person.  I recently went to Whole Foods and purchased a grocery list of things from a new cookbook  called Kitchen Matters (you have got to get this book – really good).  $225 dollars later, I go home with kale, spaghetti squash, eggplant, baking soda, baking power, coconut flakes, etc. to use in the recipes I planned to cook.  As I looked in my fridge last night, I still have most of these items.  I can hear my Dad’s voice in my head as I think about wasting food.  He used to tell my brother, sister, and myself how lucky we are to have food when there are children in other countries starving. I know this is true and thank God everyday for giving me food to eat when so many people are starving, BUT I can’t help the fact that I don’t want to cook or even eat the things I just spent $225 dollars buying.  So why did I buy them, it was because I want to live a healthy lifestyle.  I keep trying and trying so I know I have to eat the food in my fridge and soon.  Living a healthier life reduces cancer, slows the aging process, reduces inflammation in the body, and helps to maintain weight – or so I have read on the internet and seen on TV!  I really do believe this stuff.  When I eat healthier, I feel better and I am happier with the way I look.  I have more confidence about myself.  I also believe you can create a set point with your weight.  No one has ever told me this but I have figured it out on my own.  When I was at my heaviest, I weight 132 pounds at 5’2″.  I looked like a rolly polly and I felt like one too.

I attended my BFFs wedding November of 2015.  When she posted the wedding photos on Facebook, I almost died.  I could not believe how terrible I looked.  No one had said anything except my son.  He had been constantly telling me (I call it harassing me) to eat healthier, but a lot of my issues at the time were related to depression.  I tried for a long time to get under this 132 set point.  I finally decided as much as I did not want to live off of water, I had to give up the Diet Coke.  Once this happened within 3 months, I had lost 10 pounds.  Now I feel I have reset my weight point to 122.  Lately it has been around 121 but today I feel bloated and over weight.  The scales in the kitchen say I am 121.2 today so I can relate it to being bloated and not eating right.  Dr Oz was on TV this week, and he said you take your height which mine is 64 inches (5’2″) then you measure your waist (mine is 29 inches) and multiply it by 2 (58 inches).  If your waist is equal to or over your height, you need to lose weight.  My goodness, I am on the borderline so I need to get back on the wagon and stay on.  The fun is over!  No more sweets, carbs, whatever looks delicious (oh I need to stop torturing myself).

When I am not maintaining my health, I feel bloated, don’t sleep well, have more body aches in my joints, look older, feel more depressed, and have no energy.  My goodness, I think I just gave myself enough reasons to be committed to staying on the wagon.  Part of my problem is I get to my desired weight and I start feeling good about myself then I add a cookie once a week as a reward thinking it won’t hurt me but it does every single time.  I hear so many people say they give themselves a cheat day.  It might work for them but it does not work for me.  The cheat days have now given me the revelation of the truth – I am cheating!  Cheating!  I need to learn to be wiser about what is best for me when it comes to food.  I need to make good decisions no matter where I go.  Just because my friend is having the fried chicken I need to order the baked chicken.  No, I am not blaming it on the friend.  I’m still the one putting it in my mouth.  What I am saying is to some degree this is causing me to be weak.  Maybe it has something to do with my mental state of thinking I can’t ever have that again.  I feel a sense of loss for foods I like but as the saying goes anything worth having is worth working for so I will miss you my old friend.  The only way I know to realign my mindset about food is to try something I have not even thought of before.

Remember I told you the first thing I woke up and thought about was the Gyno visit today?  Well, the second thing I thought about was my weight and prayer.  How I connected these two together I have no idea.  It must be a God thing.  I know God tells me little things from time to time and this has to be one of them because I don’t think I would be thinking about weight and prayer in the same thought but God is right.  I need to pray about it.  I mean why not?  We pray about other things that matter to us – people, money issues, job issues, health concerns, relationships.  Why not pray about living a healthy lifestyle or even losing weight?  I need to pray and ask God to help me be more committed to my goals and things that are important to me such as maintaining my weight and exercising as well as watching what I eat.  I spend a lot of time praying about everything.  I would say I call myself an all day prayer.  I am constantly in prayer, but I just never thought about praying about my weight.  As it says in the Bible verse which comes to my mind and reminds me of God’s words, it is Philippians 4:6-7 which says…

Philippians 4:6-7(CEV)

Don’t worry about anything, but pray about everything. With thankful hearts offer up your prayers and requests to God. Then, because you belong to Christ Jesus, God will bless you with peace that no one can completely understand. And this peace will control the way you think and feel.

And with this, I will pray and ask God for commitment to taking better care of myself though the foods I eat and the exercise I am thinking about doing (story for another blog!).  One thing I know is I have to be committed to myself.  If I can’t be committed to myself what does that say about me?  This is a defining moment in my life.  It may sound a little dramatic to you but like I said earlier, the only person I have to take care of at my age is ME.  I can’t let myself down.  Be Blessed!

UPDATE:  I survived my Gyno appointment.  Weight last year was 128, so I am definitely better than last year weight-wise which means if I feel bloated and huge today, I really am making process.  Oh and by the way…my fitness coach read my blog.  I outed myself.  She texted me right when I was about to eat lunch to rant about how I need to become committed to a healthy lifestyle.  She was pretty tough on me in her text messages, but I know she means well.  I have already admitted in this post my failure is from a lack of commitment.  So, I am looking forward to my Gyno appointment next year to see where I am because I am going to learn to eat to live and not live to eat – starting now!  Oh and she told me to get off the dang scale!  HA HA


Have We Gone Yoga Pants Crazy?

yoga pants

I ask the questions seriously because I believe we have all fallen and bumped our head.  Everywhere I go I see women in yoga pants.  I mean if your backside looks good and you just went to an exercise class or took a DIY exercise activity then I totally get it.  I find myself running into the grocery store to pick up a few items after I have walked the Ravenal Bridge or even just walked my neighborhood.  No one wants to take a shower and get dressed just to go run an errand – not even me.  But I am shocked at the amount of women of all ages – especially women my age that I see in public wearing yoga pants.  I understand we have become a society of comfort.  I don’t like to wear binding clothes anymore myself.  Sometimes even jeans can be binding.  I had an old friend who wore dress pants a lot; and when I asked why, she told me they were more comfortable than jeans.  After thinking about it, I realized she was right.  Depending on the style and material jeans can be uncomfortable, but yoga pants as a ready to wear item everyday?  They appear to have become a stable part of our wardrobe some women can’t live without.

I am really not judgmental.  I crossed that bridge and left it behind when I turned 50 – thank God for letting go of that sinful act.  But I must say, there are some things I still question which may come across as judgmental.  Please know that everything and anything I say in any of my blog posts are meant out of love and respect for women – especially women over 50.  As a member of  Team50Plus, (I will call us), I know how hard it is to stay in shape.  I struggle with that myself, and I know how hard it is to find the right clothes to make you feel good about yourself.  The list can go on and on about what we face after we turn 50.  I understand completely.  This is why I am even writing this post because I get it.  What I am trying to tell you is Do Not Give Up On Yourself!  Wearing yoga pants as an essential part of your causal attire everyday or almost everyday is giving up on yourself and being lazy.  That is just my opinion.  Remember I am saying this out of love and respect.  You are better than that woman who gets up saying “What the hell.  No one cares what I wear!” You should care.  Be your best self every day and do not expect anything less from yourself.  Now, I am not combining leggings with yoga pants.  I love a nice black pair of leggings in the Fall and Winter with a cute long shirt and a nice pair of boots or ankle booties or sometimes heels.  There is a difference.  You may say, I don’t care what I wear and believe me it will show.  If you really feel this way, you go be you and wear it proudly, but I can bet deep inside you really don’t feel this way.  No one wants to give up on them self.

As a single female, I am praying for a Christian husband.  I was married for over 25 years and I can truly say, I always got up and got dressed and fixed myself up nice for ME (unless I was sick)  – not for my husband.  He was just the benefactor of a wife who took pride in herself.  I had married friends ask me all the time why do you always dress up even on the weekends because I want to feel good about ME.  I love to wear yoga pants at home too.  So I do make exceptions depending on my day and what I have planned; but if I go out for anything other than exercise, I dress for where I am going and what I will be doing.  I encourage you to look in the mirror every day and ask yourself “How do I want to feel about myself today?” Your choice in clothes will reflect this to the world and to your brain.  If you feel bad, it will show.  If you feel good, it will show.  Our mental attitude triggers everything we do.  It is like getting out of the bed in a bad mood; if we do and we don’t shake it off asap, we will spend the entire day in a bad mood.  As I mentioned in my precious post about What’s in my closet, I made a statement to make every day a fashion show.  I love this idea because it makes me wear the clothes in my closet I spent money to buy.  If I wore yoga pants 75% or more of the time, I would never get any wear out of my clothes.  It also helps me to create the attitude I want to have about myself.

If you read this post and decide I can go take a flying jump : / , please do yourself one favor.  Before you leave the house, look in the mirror and make sure your yoga pants are not too tight and the top you have selected covers your rear end and you wear some cute type of shoe.  Dress appropriately even in yoga pants.  The shoes in this picture are some of my favorites.  I don’t wear a lot of flats but I love these.  You don’t have to buy what I picked out or even anything expensive.  There are so many cute tennis loafers or sneakers you can pick that match your style.  I saw some recently at Target for $30.  Nothing you wear has to be expensive.  I can promise you.  My clothes are from TJMaxx and the total outfit was probably around $25.  I always stick with basic colors for exercise clothes when it comes to the pants.  I want to be able to get a lot of use out of them.  I tend to pick a colorful top to liven myself up.  One last comment and I will leave you alone to yoga on your way, you can fake the public every time you go out with the right accessories.  Be Blessed!


Fabulous Tuesday

How I am eeling today on Tuesday, August 8, 2017?  Let me show you!

I have buyers today and we are looking at beach property in Wild Dunes – one of my favorite places.  Super excited.


For a quick fashion tip, I love to add color to my outfit.  I spent years in corporate American for a major textile company flying to Wally World in Arkansas.  I remember the first time I went to meet the team at the airport.  I walked up in a coral fitted dress and everyone else was wearing black.  I felt like an odd ball.  I quickly found out that as much as you travel for business you tend to get stuck in two colors – black or grey.  I overhauled my entire wardrobe to be just about all back and white.  You just wait, you will see it.  The difference now is I have learned to put that pop of color back into my style.  Not going to find me weighted down in all back anymore unless it is a special event requiring it.  This outfit is one of my favorites.  I posted the twirl so you can see how fun it is.  I believe in being yourself.  Letting your sense of style shine through because style tells a lot about a person.  Don’t you agree?  This is a White House Black Market outfit.  It makes me feel amazing!  Shoes are Nine West and perfect for walking all day.  Hope your Tuesday was as fabulous as mine!

What’s in my closet?

Closet pic

I would love to say that I have a very organized closet. I do have a ritual of pulling it all out and putting it all back in very organized at least once a year. I put the whites with the whites, the jeans with the jeans, and color coordinate the colors that go together for long shirts, short sleeve shirts, dresses, skirts, blah blah blah…I really do. I promise. And, the picture above is only half of my closet – thank goodness. I couldn’t live with a small closet. The behind the door view you don’t see are my dresses, long formals, and party attire because even though I wear a lot of dresses living in the “Low Country” because it is so much cooler to wear a dress, I don’t find myself going to the parties or formal events I would like to go to. I wish I did and maybe one day I will because I need to get out and socialize more!

I am a very low maintenance woman and glad of it! I like certain things but I have discovered that I can get by with other things if I have to. I am not going to go home and pout or stomp my feet if I can’t get what I want. I have purchased the expensive clothes and the cheap clothes and have learned I can do a little of both depending on what I am buying and where I am going to wear it. I have also learned that just because it is on sale doesn’t mean it is for me. In my 30’s when I was raising my children, I was determined to buy as much as possible on sale when it came to my clothes. What happened was I bought things more because of price and not because I really liked them thus having them hang in the closet for years or only wearing them one time. The crazy thing is I look back at the old pictures of myself and think Oh My Gosh, why did someone not tell me I looked hideous! Well, maybe not hideous but you know what I mean. We can be so critical of our own self when it comes to everything especially clothes and our hair!

I have learned to follow two new rules. Rule 1: Do I really need this or am I spending money to spend money? I must say Pinterest has changed my life. Yes for sure. After my divorce, I started getting on Social Media and discovering a world I had not really had time to discover before. Someone told me about Pinterest, and I fell in love. I really did. The biggest thing I started noticing on Pinterest was the fashion. It helped me learn to accessorize. I would see a black shirt with a red top and a black handbag and shoes. I would think, “Hey, I have those things in my closet.” Then I would go pull out my black skirt, red top, and black high heels and lay it out on the bed. Looking at the Pinterest post and my own clothes, I realized what a great way to use Pinterest as my stylist. I thought I had a sense of style before, but this was going to help me feel so much more confident about my style. Every morning I would get up and get on Pinterest to figure out what I was going to wear to work that day. If I saw something I liked but I was missing a small part of the look, I would just go purchase it. Maybe it was a belt or a yellow top, it was always something minor. I started getting so many compliments on my outfits from friends and co-workers. I even had a few women tell me they love watching to see what I was going to be wearing the next day. WOW – Really? That is so crazy. I was just trying to build up my own confidence and feel good about myself as well as save money and use what was in my closet. I never thought I would become someone anyone would watch for fashion (that may not be good grammar – sorry : / ). I realized that day I had discovered how much I loved fashion. I also realized how important it is to look your best because you never know who is watching. I want to feel good about myself and show women over 40, over 50 and beyond that you can look and feel great in your own clothes.

Rule 2: Does it look good on me? I see a lot of clothes I like and when I go to the dressing room and look in the mirror I cringe. My daughter has been so much help in telling me the truth – Yes, Mom that looks good to No, Mom that looks awful. However, most of the time I shop alone and when you do this, you really have to be honest with yourself. If it doesn’t enhance me in some way, I won’t buy it. I have also learned to see the vision of what I am trying to achieve. I know you are wondering what does this mean. Well, if I see a picture on Social Media I think I like and I think I can wear at my age, I venture out to fine it and try it on. Putting together my recent find was a wrap blue jean skirt and an off the shoulder peach chiffon top. It is so pretty and the blue jean skirt has a made on the side bow tie. I am sure I will be posting it eventually as this is an outfit that I can wear into the fall. What I had the hardest time finding was the skirt I had in my head. I was determined I wanted this one particular style skirt. It might have had something to do with the 30 something Mom blue jean skirt I once wore looking like an old maid. I wanted something more fashionable and eye catching. The day finally came when I found it. Yes, I could not believe I found exactly what I had envisioned in my mind. It was at a little shop called Versona. I quickly ran into the dressing room and slipped it own. Looked up in the mirror and said – Oh My Gosh, this looks terrible! Sadden, I slipped it off and left in heartbreak because I had thought about this skirt all spring. A few weeks later I was still thinking about this skirt. It hit me that why can’t I make it what I want it to be? The skirt was long and hit my shin area so at 5’2″ I looked like a dwarf. I decided I could have it tailored and it could be shortened to be exactly what I wanted. Fingers crossed I went back to the store to feverishly look for this blue jean skirt and there it was on sale! WOW what a find. It had been drastically marked down to under $10 dollars. I mean God is so good right ladies? This was a huge relief because I have recently been doing my own alterations because the price has gotten so high. I am not about to pay $25 dollars to hem a skirt that cost me under $10. I took a deep breath and cut thinking well if I mess it up then I have not lost a lot. After hemming it the perfect for me knee length, I looked in the mirror and there it was the look I had envisioned in my head. It looks so good and I have gotten so many compliments on it.

One last comment I must share about fashion, especially for women over 50, I am not an expert. I learn something all the time about everything – even clothes. The biggest thing I have learned is stay in your lane meaning if you are over 50 – do not try to look 30 or 40 but do not try to look 50 or 60. I know this is a crazy statement which makes no sense to some of you or maybe it does. I am over 50. I still wonder into stores my daughter likes such as H&M and to see what I can find, but I am smart enough to know I have to look at items that work for my age without making me look like a lady of the night or a grandmother! Understand? Find that middle spot that makes you feel elegant and age appropriate. You don’t have to look your age (I’m trying not to) but you don’t have to look ridiculous either. If you don’t have a daughter to tell you NO, maybe you have a BFF who will tell you – unless her style sucks! LOL – then you might be in trouble but you know what I mean. Find that one honest person who loves you enough to want you to always look your best. I hope this hasn’t offended anyone. I said I would be honest in my blog posts and from this you can consider me your friend because I am telling you the truth.
On a side note about being honest, I recently told a new client from Texas she needed a shopping day with me. I did! I thought about it for a few days and then I had to tell her. I was like “I need to take you to Chicos and help you pick out some outfits to liven you up.” (I can’t even wear Chicos the clothes don’t fit me but she looked like a perfect match for the Chicos style). She looked at me puzzled as she stood there wearing a man’s white Polo shirt and black leggings. This woman has enough money to never work again but she has no children or girlfriends to shop with so she never goes shopping. She reached over and gave me a hug. She told me that was exactly what she needed to hear from someone who cared about her. She has felt so old and she is just a little over 60. I believe in empowering women especially with words of encouragement even when it comes to clothes. I was not about to let her leave me without telling her she was so beautiful and to play her best self to bring out her true spirit. She admitted to me she had been depressed so there you go. I think this was just what she needed to hear. I know I may get a lot of “Women Libbers” who will tell me to be ashamed of myself for telling her she needs a fashion makeover, but I am not ashamed. I am a “Woman Lover” meaning I love to lift women up to be their best self and fashion is only one way of doing that. I try to make everyday a fashion show because it makes me feel good about me! God Bless!

Happy Monday

Me in Kit1

Sharing this pic again in my Fashion and Beauty section for anyone who wants to know about my comfy knit dress.  #WHBM – White House Black Market – one of my favorite stores.  I am finding myself going to the outlet at Tanger Mall more these days as I can’t convince myself to pay above a certain price.  I am getting to be a cheapskate in my old age.  It is super comfy and washes up so nice.  Just hang to dry.  Shoes are from Nine West.  I think Nine West make really nice shoes.  I get so many compliments on them.  They have block wood heels and have held their shape nice with all the walking I do on construction sites.  You can’t see my earrings but they are red tear drops.  Very pretty and old!  Too old to remember where they came from.  I am always looking for something comfortable and nice to beat the Charleston humidity!

Oyster Point – Mount Pleasant

Me in Kit1

Happy Monday.  I spent the afternoon at Oyster Point getting ready for an out of state Buyer to come in tomorrow.  I have sold homes in Oyster Point before but I always like to go by the places I plan to show the day before if I have time.  I am a planner for the most part and it is very important to me to have everything planned out for you before you arrive so I can show you a wonderful day.  So far, this has worked well.  So why am I standing in a new construction kitchen?  I can’t even cook.  I mean I can cook enough to not starve, and I was able to cook even to care for my children when they lived at home.  I guess being single and living alone I just don’t find the need to cook much anymore.  However, I love the way a kitchen looks – super nice!  HA HA – that probably doesn’t even make sense does it?  Well, the kitchen is the heart of the home.  It is where everyone gathers to watch you cook or to talk to you while you are cooking, so why not be in luxury even in the kitchen?  I am standing in a beautiful town home in Oyster Point.  The builder is DR Horton.  I have sold so many of their wonderful homes during my career, and my Buyers have always been very pleased with their purchase.  There are also single family homes in this beautiful neighborhood too if you would rather not have a town home.  And…the amenities are amazing.  Not only do they have a pool which is huge, they have a bocce ball, tennis courts, playground, walking trails and a dock!  Yes, a dock where you can drive your boat up to the dock and pick up your family or guests. This neighborhood is super close to the Isle of Palm Connector which means 5 minutes to the BEACH!  I have posted some beautiful pictures of the neighborhood and two of the models.  If you are ever in my area, please call me.  I would love to show you around!

Okay – I’m over 50. What can I say?

As I was doing my daily routine of getting dressed, I have this ritual where I always dump my entire make-up bag out onto the bathroom counter.  I think because there is so much stuff in there I can never find anything.  It is kind of like the big pocketbook issue all women face.  Everything goes to the bottom.  This morning was no different.  I dumped it out only after thinking about how freaking heavy it is now.


I promise you I have been trying to downsize for the past year.  And the bad thing about it is none of these items are old.  I am very careful to throw out the old and not keep it forever.  The problem I am having now is I have turned into the woman I did not want to become who worries about her looks.  Yes – it is true.  I always thought that would not happen to me but it has.  I look in the mirror and think “Man, I am losing definition in my cheekbones, my eyes are getting so many lines around them, my face is starting to drupe.  OMGosh – what am I going to do.  The truth is if you are over 50 I don’t know anyone in my small circle of friends who isn’t feeling the same thing.  My BFF and I are always sharing the best things we have found to “turn back time”.  Well, that is a bunch of Who Who.  Nothing will turn back time normally.  That was not God’s plan.  We are suppose to age and hopefully age gracefully.  My problem is I am single.  I live in a world where men want a 30 or 40 year old, so my biological clock is ticking but in a different way.  It does make me sad to feel this way because I know I am a woman of value and dignity.  Someone reading this post is probably thinking if that were true she would not care what people think.  Honey, I don’t really care what people think.  I care what I think and right now I think I need to be the best person I can be which is why I am writing this blog and spilling my guts about everything.  Make-up for woman over 50 is a tough thing.  I have noticed recently that it isn’t as easy to apply as it used to be which tells me I am getting older skin.  This is scary but a fact of life.  I started out watching YouTube videos of all the new techniques.  How to highlight your face.  How to contour your cheeks. How to do your eye make-up and every video left me feeling like I needed to run out and buy something new to help me look younger.  I even realized the application of applying the make-up has to change.  I can’t do what I used to do to my eyes etc.  Then Glory Be, it hit me.  I was watching all the videos of the young 20 something make-up artists who look like Barbie dolls.  This is not me.  This is not my age.  How did I even start watching this?  That is what you get when you Google on Youtube how to apply make-up.  Now, I am not at this point in my life about to start a “How to apply make-up” video on YouTube.  What I am here to tell you now is we women over 50 need to simply our lives.  Leave all that gilts and glamour stuff to the 20/30 something year olds’.  My precious daughter just turned 29 and she is a beauty queen to me.  Her make-up is always flawless from her eyes to her checks to her lipstick.  I look at her in awe.  However, I can’t and probably should not even attempt to do all of the tricks and cover ups that are required to look like a baby doll.  Not referring to my daughter but to other females on social media, I have noticed they tend to look like plastic Baby Dolls.  Do they even know this?  OR, am I just old and don’t get the new make-up look?  Well, all I can say is I know me and I am an expert on me.  So with that being said, I have to simplify that big make-up bag and find what really works for me.

After I started layering on my face as we call it, I noticed the things I really like a lot which I don’t mind sharing with you.  The photo below are my must haves and I will tell you why.


To start with, I have learned I have to have primer.  When I first heard about primer I was like “Oh no, this is nothing but a gimmick to make you think you need it.” Not true.  I have applied my foundation with and without primer and I know my face looks better with primer.  I have purchased the expensive Benefits brand ($28) and now the ($6 ) E.L.F.  Target brand (which I like just as well) and I can visually see the difference when I wear primer under my foundation.  It fills in any pores etc and smooths out your skin to make it look so much better or in my case younger.

For foundation, I have used them all too.  The most expensive ($40) brands to now again the ($6) E.L.F brand from Target.  BTW,  I am not getting paid to promote any of these products.  I am just trying to share with you what I like and what works best for me right now.  The E.L.F. foundation smells nice.  I am all about the smells and if it does not smell good I can’t use it.  It glides on smooth.  I use Sand in the winter and have started using a small drop of Sand and a small drop of Buff and mixing them together for an in between color that is not too light or too dark for my summer foundation look.  The next thing I use which is a must have is my eyebrow pencil.

I have struggled my entire life with my eyebrows.  I am a natural blonde (who now gets highlights) and when you are a natural blonde by birth – let me throw out this, you have very light colored eyebrows.  As I have aged, they have gotten thin and sparse.  I have used so many different things from pencils to brow gels etc that I can’t remember them all but one thing I can tell you is I have spent a small fortune trying to look like I have beautiful eyebrows.  Why is this important to me?  Well, I believe eyebrows frame the face just like lipstick frames the face.  Those two items are the beginning and ending of your entire look.  I have had a rough road of learning how to make my eyebrows look real.  It has literally been a pain in the ass!  Excuse me Lord but this is the truth.  Have you ever walked up to someone with weird eyebrows and thought “Oh my goodness, what has she done to her eyebrows?” I am about 100% sure that has been said about me, but when you don’t have a lot to work with you do the best you can.  No one tried to teach me how to enhance them so thank God for YouTube.  It has been my place to learn about everything – even eyebrows.  So my favorite must have eyebrow pencil is the Benefits – Give Me Brows ($28).  I have used a ton of different types of brands and this one is the best.  I have also used the Benefits – Give Me Brows Eyebrow Gel ($28) but I have found that the NYX brand $7.99 is just as good so I switched.  What I do is use the brow pencils to shape them and fill them in.  Then I use the brow gel to go over my brow hair.  This kind of seals it all together.  I will tell you that with my ability to Google anything I have discovered Mircoblading.  I have this on my birthday list so watch out for this in the near future.

You might notice there are no eye shadows in this picture.  It does not mean I do not use them.  It means I like them all even though I am moving away from the shiny and sparkly ones to Mate finish shadows.  I have Urban Decay, LÓreal, etc and to me an eye shadow is just an eye shadow.  I have put on my bucket list to make an appointment with a professional make up artist who can teach me how to apply eye shadow for my age using the best colors to enhance my looks in a neutral finish instead of it looking like a black eye so I will keep you posted on this too.

After I apply primer, foundation, my eye brow routine, and eye shadow, I use the NYX concealer in peach.  I want to personally thank the Actress Molly Sims for doing a YouTube video on how to hide dark under eye circles.  This is an amazing trick; although, I am still learning the technique.  It has definitely helped me more than anything anyone has ever told me or any YouTube video I have watched.  I stumbled on her Instagram and I have always liked her since her days on the show Casino.  I decided to follow her and I am glad I did. She is such a nice person and her sweet family is adorable.  She adds her YouTube channel to her Instagram feed thus this is how I learned the peach concealer and how to apply.  Remember I am all about learning new tricks.  After you put on your eye shadow, not before, you will apply the peach concealer with a brush and stipple it into your skin to hide the dark circles.  When the peach concealers dries, then you can go back with a more natural looking concealer to put over the top of it.  Be careful ladies of our age!  I know from trial and error that our skin texture is softer than it once was so do not add a lot of natural looking concealer.  It will cake up and look like a mess.  I allow everything to dry before I take a damp beauty blender sponge and pat it into the skin.  I back off if it is too messy and push in more if I have applied too much.  Some days my eyes are more puffy than other days and this can affect my eye application too.  So on these days, I may skip the natural concealer because I am more worried about the dark circles. I feel like having the peach on is better than having a dark circle.

Once the concealer is dry, I use the E.L.F eye powder ($3) to matte the look.  This is very helpful as it hides the definition of where the eye goes into the cheek because when you are over 50 you start getting that sunken in eye look which I hate.  It helps to smooth it out and make it less noticeable but cautious on applying too much because that will make your eyes look old if you don’t do it sparingly.  Then I apply my mascara.  I am showing the It Cosmetic’s mascara ($28) only because I have it already but it is not something I will purchase again so just buy the one you like to use.  I would recommend using whatever you use to apply to your lashes first.  However, if you are not blessed with long eyelashes as I am not, I love the Better Than Sex Mascara.  It only comes in Black – I think and it has microfibers that attach to your eyelashes to enhance them to look longer than they are.  This stuff works great.  Just be careful about rubbing your eyes because the microfibers will fall off on your face if you do.  I mean it is make up so nothing is permanent.

Blush should always be the best color that compliments your skin tone.  Application is different when you are over 50.  The coloring of the apples of your cheeks is gone.  We are too old for that.  Lean more toward the sweep of he cheek bone.  I love pink for summer and I try to use a type of peach for winter – although I would probably ask the make-up artist on my list what she recommends for my skin tone and hair color.  I have tried the highlighters and the contour colors for enhancing your checks etc.  All I do is make a huge mess so I have learned to be simply and not try to focus on doing something that I don’t know how to do or even think will work for my age.

When I am finished, I take a tiny bite of mineral powder – not much – and pat in my t-zone to help control my oily skin.  I do not put this all over my face because it makes my foundation look cakey and makes me look old.  We need to stop doing things the way we used to do them.  Applying make up is no different.  The powdering all over your face is a thing of the past for older women.  We want to have a hydrated healthy look.  I am currently trying the setting spray to set my look so I don’t have to worry about oil control or my make-up changing from the morning to the afternoon.  I am trying the NYX setting spray but it is too early to tell if I like it or not.  I will let you know.  Maybe now that I have some new primer it will help more because it hasn’t made a difference yet.  PS, if you are wondering why I have Q-tips in the pic, it is because we all mess up.  We bump an eye or smear something that needs to be touched up.  The Q-tip is my magic eraser.  Do not wet it.  Leave it dry.  It works very well at erasing the mistakes we make during our morning routine.  I hope this helps.  Let me know if you have questions or can share any of your tricks in helping me hide wrinkles around my eyes before I decide to bust loose with the Botox!  JK but maybe not!  HA – Before and After.  Lord help me for posting the before. I could have at least smiled!    #Imnotshy  #naturalbeauty  #loveyourself  #makeupworksmiracles