Okay – I’m over 50. What can I say?

As I was doing my daily routine of getting dressed, I have this ritual where I always dump my entire make-up bag out onto the bathroom counter.  I think because there is so much stuff in there I can never find anything.  It is kind of like the big pocketbook issue all women face.  Everything goes to the bottom.  This morning was no different.  I dumped it out only after thinking about how freaking heavy it is now.

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I promise you I have been trying to downsize for the past year.  And the bad thing about it is none of these items are old.  I am very careful to throw out the old and not keep it forever.  The problem I am having now is I have turned into the woman I did not want to become who worries about her looks.  Yes – it is true.  I always thought that would not happen to me but it has.  I look in the mirror and think “Man, I am losing definition in my cheekbones, my eyes are getting so many lines around them, my face is starting to drupe.  OMGosh – what am I going to do.  The truth is if you are over 50 I don’t know anyone in my small circle of friends who isn’t feeling the same thing.  My BFF and I are always sharing the best things we have found to “turn back time”.  Well, that is a bunch of Who Who.  Nothing will turn back time normally.  That was not God’s plan.  We are suppose to age and hopefully age gracefully.  My problem is I am single.  I live in a world where men want a 30 or 40 year old, so my biological clock is ticking but in a different way.  It does make me sad to feel this way because I know I am a woman of value and dignity.  Someone reading this post is probably thinking if that were true she would not care what people think.  Honey, I don’t really care what people think.  I care what I think and right now I think I need to be the best person I can be which is why I am writing this blog and spilling my guts about everything.  Make-up for woman over 50 is a tough thing.  I have noticed recently that it isn’t as easy to apply as it used to be which tells me I am getting older skin.  This is scary but a fact of life.  I started out watching YouTube videos of all the new techniques.  How to highlight your face.  How to contour your cheeks. How to do your eye make-up and every video left me feeling like I needed to run out and buy something new to help me look younger.  I even realized the application of applying the make-up has to change.  I can’t do what I used to do to my eyes etc.  Then Glory Be, it hit me.  I was watching all the videos of the young 20 something make-up artists who look like Barbie dolls.  This is not me.  This is not my age.  How did I even start watching this?  That is what you get when you Google on Youtube how to apply make-up.  Now, I am not at this point in my life about to start a “How to apply make-up” video on YouTube.  What I am here to tell you now is we women over 50 need to simply our lives.  Leave all that gilts and glamour stuff to the 20/30 something year olds’.  My precious daughter just turned 29 and she is a beauty queen to me.  Her make-up is always flawless from her eyes to her checks to her lipstick.  I look at her in awe.  However, I can’t and probably should not even attempt to do all of the tricks and cover ups that are required to look like a baby doll.  Not referring to my daughter but to other females on social media, I have noticed they tend to look like plastic Baby Dolls.  Do they even know this?  OR, am I just old and don’t get the new make-up look?  Well, all I can say is I know me and I am an expert on me.  So with that being said, I have to simplify that big make-up bag and find what really works for me.

After I started layering on my face as we call it, I noticed the things I really like a lot which I don’t mind sharing with you.  The photo below are my must haves and I will tell you why.

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To start with, I have learned I have to have primer.  When I first heard about primer I was like “Oh no, this is nothing but a gimmick to make you think you need it.” Not true.  I have applied my foundation with and without primer and I know my face looks better with primer.  I have purchased the expensive Benefits brand ($28) and now the ($6 ) E.L.F.  Target brand (which I like just as well) and I can visually see the difference when I wear primer under my foundation.  It fills in any pores etc and smooths out your skin to make it look so much better or in my case younger.

For foundation, I have used them all too.  The most expensive ($40) brands to now again the ($6) E.L.F brand from Target.  BTW,  I am not getting paid to promote any of these products.  I am just trying to share with you what I like and what works best for me right now.  The E.L.F. foundation smells nice.  I am all about the smells and if it does not smell good I can’t use it.  It glides on smooth.  I use Sand in the winter and have started using a small drop of Sand and a small drop of Buff and mixing them together for an in between color that is not too light or too dark for my summer foundation look.  The next thing I use which is a must have is my eyebrow pencil.

I have struggled my entire life with my eyebrows.  I am a natural blonde (who now gets highlights) and when you are a natural blonde by birth – let me throw out this, you have very light colored eyebrows.  As I have aged, they have gotten thin and sparse.  I have used so many different things from pencils to brow gels etc that I can’t remember them all but one thing I can tell you is I have spent a small fortune trying to look like I have beautiful eyebrows.  Why is this important to me?  Well, I believe eyebrows frame the face just like lipstick frames the face.  Those two items are the beginning and ending of your entire look.  I have had a rough road of learning how to make my eyebrows look real.  It has literally been a pain in the ass!  Excuse me Lord but this is the truth.  Have you ever walked up to someone with weird eyebrows and thought “Oh my goodness, what has she done to her eyebrows?” I am about 100% sure that has been said about me, but when you don’t have a lot to work with you do the best you can.  No one tried to teach me how to enhance them so thank God for YouTube.  It has been my place to learn about everything – even eyebrows.  So my favorite must have eyebrow pencil is the Benefits – Give Me Brows ($28).  I have used a ton of different types of brands and this one is the best.  I have also used the Benefits – Give Me Brows Eyebrow Gel ($28) but I have found that the NYX brand $7.99 is just as good so I switched.  What I do is use the brow pencils to shape them and fill them in.  Then I use the brow gel to go over my brow hair.  This kind of seals it all together.  I will tell you that with my ability to Google anything I have discovered Mircoblading.  I have this on my birthday list so watch out for this in the near future.

You might notice there are no eye shadows in this picture.  It does not mean I do not use them.  It means I like them all even though I am moving away from the shiny and sparkly ones to Mate finish shadows.  I have Urban Decay, LÓreal, etc and to me an eye shadow is just an eye shadow.  I have put on my bucket list to make an appointment with a professional make up artist who can teach me how to apply eye shadow for my age using the best colors to enhance my looks in a neutral finish instead of it looking like a black eye so I will keep you posted on this too.

After I apply primer, foundation, my eye brow routine, and eye shadow, I use the NYX concealer in peach.  I want to personally thank the Actress Molly Sims for doing a YouTube video on how to hide dark under eye circles.  This is an amazing trick; although, I am still learning the technique.  It has definitely helped me more than anything anyone has ever told me or any YouTube video I have watched.  I stumbled on her Instagram and I have always liked her since her days on the show Casino.  I decided to follow her and I am glad I did. She is such a nice person and her sweet family is adorable.  She adds her YouTube channel to her Instagram feed thus this is how I learned the peach concealer and how to apply.  Remember I am all about learning new tricks.  After you put on your eye shadow, not before, you will apply the peach concealer with a brush and stipple it into your skin to hide the dark circles.  When the peach concealers dries, then you can go back with a more natural looking concealer to put over the top of it.  Be careful ladies of our age!  I know from trial and error that our skin texture is softer than it once was so do not add a lot of natural looking concealer.  It will cake up and look like a mess.  I allow everything to dry before I take a damp beauty blender sponge and pat it into the skin.  I back off if it is too messy and push in more if I have applied too much.  Some days my eyes are more puffy than other days and this can affect my eye application too.  So on these days, I may skip the natural concealer because I am more worried about the dark circles. I feel like having the peach on is better than having a dark circle.

Once the concealer is dry, I use the E.L.F eye powder ($3) to matte the look.  This is very helpful as it hides the definition of where the eye goes into the cheek because when you are over 50 you start getting that sunken in eye look which I hate.  It helps to smooth it out and make it less noticeable but cautious on applying too much because that will make your eyes look old if you don’t do it sparingly.  Then I apply my mascara.  I am showing the It Cosmetic’s mascara ($28) only because I have it already but it is not something I will purchase again so just buy the one you like to use.  I would recommend using whatever you use to apply to your lashes first.  However, if you are not blessed with long eyelashes as I am not, I love the Better Than Sex Mascara.  It only comes in Black – I think and it has microfibers that attach to your eyelashes to enhance them to look longer than they are.  This stuff works great.  Just be careful about rubbing your eyes because the microfibers will fall off on your face if you do.  I mean it is make up so nothing is permanent.

Blush should always be the best color that compliments your skin tone.  Application is different when you are over 50.  The coloring of the apples of your cheeks is gone.  We are too old for that.  Lean more toward the sweep of he cheek bone.  I love pink for summer and I try to use a type of peach for winter – although I would probably ask the make-up artist on my list what she recommends for my skin tone and hair color.  I have tried the highlighters and the contour colors for enhancing your checks etc.  All I do is make a huge mess so I have learned to be simply and not try to focus on doing something that I don’t know how to do or even think will work for my age.

When I am finished, I take a tiny bite of mineral powder – not much – and pat in my t-zone to help control my oily skin.  I do not put this all over my face because it makes my foundation look cakey and makes me look old.  We need to stop doing things the way we used to do them.  Applying make up is no different.  The powdering all over your face is a thing of the past for older women.  We want to have a hydrated healthy look.  I am currently trying the setting spray to set my look so I don’t have to worry about oil control or my make-up changing from the morning to the afternoon.  I am trying the NYX setting spray but it is too early to tell if I like it or not.  I will let you know.  Maybe now that I have some new primer it will help more because it hasn’t made a difference yet.  PS, if you are wondering why I have Q-tips in the pic, it is because we all mess up.  We bump an eye or smear something that needs to be touched up.  The Q-tip is my magic eraser.  Do not wet it.  Leave it dry.  It works very well at erasing the mistakes we make during our morning routine.  I hope this helps.  Let me know if you have questions or can share any of your tricks in helping me hide wrinkles around my eyes before I decide to bust loose with the Botox!  JK but maybe not!  HA – Before and After.  Lord help me for posting the before. I could have at least smiled!    #Imnotshy  #naturalbeauty  #loveyourself  #makeupworksmiracles

 

 

 

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Fashion after 50 – It’s about feeling good about yourself!

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Happy Sunday!  Heading to church today and always wanting to look my best even though my church is very laid back I still like to dress up.  Wearing one of my favorite dresses today from the Escapada Signature Store in Mount Pleasant, SC.  It is so comfortable and I love the bell sleeves. Colors are aqua blue and corral with aqua blue earrings.  Trying to get in a couple more wears before fall sets in even though we just started August!  I am wearing size Small for reference.  Shoes are from Target and so comfortable.  They are suede lace ups with a wooden block heels.  Looking at this picture it’s screaming at me to eat healthier!  My weight this summer has been up and down even though I only currently weigh 121.4,  I look heavier.  That is what happens when you are 5′ 2″ !  Not promoting clothes etc. just sharing where I purchased in case you want to know.

Are you waiting on God or Just wanting his answer?

I find myself obsessed on Sunday morning to get to church and find my seat so I can get ready to open my heart to the message of God.  I am at an age in my life where my spirituality is number one in my life.  I was raised in church by my Christian father, who has been the biggest role model in my life.  We went to church every Sunday, even when I did not want to go during my teenage years.  I remember getting a gift of a Bible quote on a plaque at a baby shower from a friend when I was pregnant.  It was Proverbs 22:6 which says Train Up a Child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it.  This verse has stuck with me since that very day because I know if you are raised in church or you make sure you take your children to church there is a better chance of you and them returning to church when you get older or at least that is what has happened to me.  Of course, God never wants us to leave the church because there is where we are most likely to hear his word, but we all do for a while because we grow apart thinking we don’t need to hear that “stuff” all the time but we do.  The biggest most important thing to remember here is that even if you were not raised in church or did not take your children to church there is still a place for you at a local church to come and get to know a God who loves you and wants to change your life for the better.  I believe in God and I believe in the verse Jeremiah 29:11, For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future and that is what I am waiting on which brings me to my take-a-way from church today:  Are you waiting on God or just waiting on God’s answer?

The message was exactly what I needed to hear.  I have been waiting for some major things in my life to change.  I know everyone has something that is causing them stress but I also know that when we are stressed about something we become narcissistic about it.  I hate to admit it but it is true.  I can say it now out loud because my Preacher said it today which confirmed this must be a normal emotion.  I moved to Charleston 4 years ago.  I was in a lonely place in my life.  My real estate work was going great.  I was so busy but also able to work part time by chance and make a very good living.  I was lonely.  I felt I was going to never find what God wanted me to have living in my small home town.  I felt suffocated.  I started getting close to that dreaded age of 50.  I decided I needed to start looking at my life and trying to figure out what I wanted to do.  I believe at 50 you need to make some important decisions because if you are lucky enough to live to be 100, you realize its all over the hill and on the downward slide from here.  Making decisions about my life was one of those things I felt needed to be done.  I had always wanted to move away from my hometown.  I had never really felt like I belonged there (this is a story for another time). I had been praying to God about what to do.  One night I was awakened in the middle of the night and sat up in bed.  I heard God’s voice tell me to sell all of my belongings and move to Charleston.  I was sure it was him who told me to do this because I was awakened from a deep sleep.  I took this as a sign from God that everything was going to be okay.  So I stepped out in faith (which I had done once before) and began the process.  I have this weird personality.  I always think I have to hire the expert so I hired a Life Coach.  She helped me with the mental process of letting go of my real estate career.  This was a huge deal because if you are self employed you know that your business is how you make your living.  As I said before, I believe in God and I know God has my back so I let go and moved on.  I was more excited about moving and starting my new life than leaving my old one and my career.

When I got to Charleston, which is only 3 hours from my hometown, it was like moving across country.  I have vacationed here so many times during my life but living here and starting over to be self employed was like a slap in the face.  It was not what I had expected.  I had thought that the voice of God telling me to sell all my belongings and move meant everything was going to be wonderful from here on out.  Not true at all!  It was hard.  I encountered many hurtful experiences from people who I had been told I could trust – that I do not want to even remember must less blog about.  I was devastated and lonely and broke.  It has been four years now and things are getting better.  My real estate work has picked up finally, and I am making friends, I found a wonderful church which has saved me from being completely in despair.  I still pray constantly about my financial needs and for God to send me a Christian husband.  I know these things will be answered because God has told me “It will come in the winter”.  Yes, I heard him say these words as loud as he told me to move here.  So I am waiting and trying to be patient.  In January of this year 2017, the word Patience popped into my head.  Someone at church told me,  “God gives me a word every year and that is my word for what I need to work on in my life during the year.”  I had never had a word but hearing this was a Ah Ha because the word Patience was a word that was in my head from God so this explained what I was supposed to do with it.  Her telling me this was no coincidence.  It was an explanation.  It was going to be the real reason of what my life’s journey was going to be this year.

Today at church was the perfect message for me.  The Preacher said,  “Are you waiting on God’s answer or are you waiting on God?” Do you want the answer from God more than God?  Mmm…this is going to be good I thought.  We all know that everything in life takes time but why is it that when we pray to God for help we don’t want to wait on his timing?  Everything is in God’s timing; although, we want it now!  As in Isaiah 40:31, Those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength.  They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.  Waiting brings patience and spiritual growth.  Waiting is not passive it is active.  We think if we are waiting we are doing nothing.  That is not true.  God wants us to be a in place of worship while we wait.  One of the Biblical meanings of the word worship is Worth Shaping.  This means when you pray to God for something and you know you have to be patient for his answer you have a Gap in the middle that has to be filled.  In this gap, God wants you to be in a state of worship.  This is a time in your life where you should be worth shaping.  This is a time where God is watching to see are you worthy of your answered prayer.    During this gap, what are you doing?  Sin is easy to fall into this gap with you.  Waiting causes bitterness, negativity and fear.  These are forms of sin.  “God doesn’t hear me!” “God doesn’t care about me!” “Nothing will ever change!” “Why is this happening to me?” “What did I do to deserve this?”  These are sinful gap responses that we fill in our heads to keep us from having faith and patience.  I admit I have had those thoughts too because I pray and nothing changes so I feel like giving up.  I have heard them all in my head so many times thus being narcissistic about my own problems and my own needs which I think no one understands or cares but God understands and God cares.  Sometimes we can’t see anything but what is going on in our own lives.  We fall into the gap which becomes a huge black hole that we must climb out of to have patience.  Waiting is allowing you to grow up in your faith. God wants us to wait expectantly.  The Lord is good to those who wait for him, to the soul who seeks him – Lamentations 3:25.  He wants is to wait confidentially.   And the Lord answered me, write down the vision.  Make it plain on tablets so he may run who reads it – Habakkuk 2:2.  Write down what God has told you.  Journal his words in writing so you can go back and be reminded of what he has told you.  Hold them in your heart because what he has told you is true.  The gap is not a black hole which is there to sink your worries and cover you with fear.  It is a time of faith that you must rely on God’s promises and hold them near.  God’s timing is more important than his answers as it says in Romans 8:28 – And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose and in Jeremiah 29:11, For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.  Be patient good things are coming your way!

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Slaying the Giant – A mini-series of hope.

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Takeaway from church today is… you just need to watch the sermon. Slaying the Giant of Addiction.

What is addiction – Saying YES to things that don’t want you to be Free. They control your life until you break the chains of addiction and stop the cycle.

It’s not just drugs and alcohol. It could be sweets, work, food, shopping, exercise, gossip, worrying, negativity, co-dependency, etc. – whatever you are enslaved to is your addiction. We all have them!

I will post the sermon once it is posted on the church website. It was really eye opening as to how our addictive behaviors are formed and how it takes time to reprogram our minds to stop the behavior.

Some really good Bible scriptures with this sermon are below:

Romans 7: 19
Romans 7: 21-23
Romans 6: 16-19
Exodus 20:3
Philippians 2:13
Matthew 7: 7-8

Final thought – Find your “Me too Person” or be a “Me too Person” – meaning have someone in your life you can related to or be someone for someone else they can relate to. Breaking addiction takes love, compassion, understanding, prayers, and trust knowing others want the best for you!

What are my addictions? Let me put it out there!

1. Sweets – doing a better job at overcoming sweets.
2. Loneliness – doing a better job believing God will bring the right person into my life.
3. Worry – learning to have more faith that God will provide for my needs and it is not all up to me.

Until you can openly say your addictions out loud – you will continue to be enslaved! I plan to be FREE – How about you?

 

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About Me…

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Well, where do I start?  My name is Cynthia Williams.  I live in Charleston, SC.  I am 54 years old – Mmm – said that with a lump in my throat – as I can’t believe it sometimes myself.  I am 5’2″ tall and have been wearing high heels since I was 4 years old.  I don’t place to stop now.  I have two amazing adult children, Brad and Megan.  They have and are the enjoy of my life.  The best gift God ever gave me.  You will hear more about them later, I am sure.  I have a beautiful grand-doggie, Stella, who loves me unconditionally and a lot of times I need it.  You will also hear more about her too.  I am divorced.  I have been single going on 10 years.  I can’t believe it!  Where has the time gone.  I have been a professional Real Estate Broker in the South Carolina and also in North Carolina for 15 years.  I primarily – at least now – work in South Carolina since I moved to the Charleston, SC area 4 years ago.  I have and am still discovering the things about myself that I like (and dislike).  Excuse me…I mean I want to change.  I have lived in South Carolina my entire life and have always loved living here, especially now that I live in Charleston.  It is the best place in the entire state as far as I am concerned and right now people from all over the country are moving here in droves! So this is just a short snip-it of who I am.  I wanted to introduce myself before I started blasting out all about my life etc…  The picture above is of my children and myself this past Mother’s Day 2017.

Hello World, I have something to say…

Hey Ya’ll, as Paula Dean would say.  My name is Cynthia Williams, and I live in Charleston, South Carolina.  I don’t really say the word “Ya’ll”, anymore but I used to say it.  I just thought as my first opening comment it would be a great way to express how excited I am to have you read my first post.  I was a real estate blogger years ago but this time I want to be more expressive.  I decided as a woman over the age of 50 lifestyle blogging was more for me now.  Why?  Because I noticing more and more that being over 50 can be wonderful but yet challenging.  I still plan to fill my pages with pictures of homes in the Charleston SC area so be on the lookout because my full time career is selling real estate here in what we call the Low Country.  I love what I do and I think I am pretty dang good at it, but there is so much more to me than real estate.  This is why I have decided to start this new blog so I can provide a creative outlet for who I am now, what I like, and what I love about life, myself, and anything else that strikes my fancy.  This forum will not just be one sided because I don’t think I have one side anymore.  In my real estate blogging days, I only wrote about real estate information.  What I have learned over my 15 year career is real estate as well as anything else in life is about relationships.  How do you create a relationship with someone you do not know?  You learn about them.  I am opening up my heart and soul about everything in my life that matters.  I hope you enjoying reading what I write and the pictures I post.  Please remember, I am not a professional blogger.  I am going to make typos.  Sometimes I will re-read my posts and have to go back and fix or change something.  Anyone who can get it right the first time is way better than me.  Everything I have done is my life has been a learning experience.  I don’t doubt this will be too.  Feel free to comment on my posts.  I promise to always reply to you (if they are not too harsh) – meaning I am at the age where I don’t play nice with mean people.  Life is too short to be rude, mean or hurtful.  So one thing I need to get out in the open, I am honest, and I am a Christian.  I live each day trying to make God proud of me.  It may not always happen every day – : / – but I try.  The one thing I have learned is I am a work in progress.  I am at a place in my life where I am changing – getting older, wiser, learning patience, and more sure of what I want in my life and who I want to spend it with.  I hope I get to spend it with you, if you decide to become a subscriber.  Thanks again and Hello to the truth because I plan to bring it meaning when you are over 50 I was told you could say what you thought.  Mmm…it is going to be interesting for sure!

Cynthia Williams

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