What’s in my closet?

Closet pic

I would love to say that I have a very organized closet. I do have a ritual of pulling it all out and putting it all back in very organized at least once a year. I put the whites with the whites, the jeans with the jeans, and color coordinate the colors that go together for long shirts, short sleeve shirts, dresses, skirts, blah blah blah…I really do. I promise. And, the picture above is only half of my closet – thank goodness. I couldn’t live with a small closet. The behind the door view you don’t see are my dresses, long formals, and party attire because even though I wear a lot of dresses living in the “Low Country” because it is so much cooler to wear a dress, I don’t find myself going to the parties or formal events I would like to go to. I wish I did and maybe one day I will because I need to get out and socialize more!

I am a very low maintenance woman and glad of it! I like certain things but I have discovered that I can get by with other things if I have to. I am not going to go home and pout or stomp my feet if I can’t get what I want. I have purchased the expensive clothes and the cheap clothes and have learned I can do a little of both depending on what I am buying and where I am going to wear it. I have also learned that just because it is on sale doesn’t mean it is for me. In my 30’s when I was raising my children, I was determined to buy as much as possible on sale when it came to my clothes. What happened was I bought things more because of price and not because I really liked them thus having them hang in the closet for years or only wearing them one time. The crazy thing is I look back at the old pictures of myself and think Oh My Gosh, why did someone not tell me I looked hideous! Well, maybe not hideous but you know what I mean. We can be so critical of our own self when it comes to everything especially clothes and our hair!

I have learned to follow two new rules. Rule 1: Do I really need this or am I spending money to spend money? I must say Pinterest has changed my life. Yes for sure. After my divorce, I started getting on Social Media and discovering a world I had not really had time to discover before. Someone told me about Pinterest, and I fell in love. I really did. The biggest thing I started noticing on Pinterest was the fashion. It helped me learn to accessorize. I would see a black shirt with a red top and a black handbag and shoes. I would think, “Hey, I have those things in my closet.” Then I would go pull out my black skirt, red top, and black high heels and lay it out on the bed. Looking at the Pinterest post and my own clothes, I realized what a great way to use Pinterest as my stylist. I thought I had a sense of style before, but this was going to help me feel so much more confident about my style. Every morning I would get up and get on Pinterest to figure out what I was going to wear to work that day. If I saw something I liked but I was missing a small part of the look, I would just go purchase it. Maybe it was a belt or a yellow top, it was always something minor. I started getting so many compliments on my outfits from friends and co-workers. I even had a few women tell me they love watching to see what I was going to be wearing the next day. WOW – Really? That is so crazy. I was just trying to build up my own confidence and feel good about myself as well as save money and use what was in my closet. I never thought I would become someone anyone would watch for fashion (that may not be good grammar – sorry : / ). I realized that day I had discovered how much I loved fashion. I also realized how important it is to look your best because you never know who is watching. I want to feel good about myself and show women over 40, over 50 and beyond that you can look and feel great in your own clothes.

Rule 2: Does it look good on me? I see a lot of clothes I like and when I go to the dressing room and look in the mirror I cringe. My daughter has been so much help in telling me the truth – Yes, Mom that looks good to No, Mom that looks awful. However, most of the time I shop alone and when you do this, you really have to be honest with yourself. If it doesn’t enhance me in some way, I won’t buy it. I have also learned to see the vision of what I am trying to achieve. I know you are wondering what does this mean. Well, if I see a picture on Social Media I think I like and I think I can wear at my age, I venture out to fine it and try it on. Putting together my recent find was a wrap blue jean skirt and an off the shoulder peach chiffon top. It is so pretty and the blue jean skirt has a made on the side bow tie. I am sure I will be posting it eventually as this is an outfit that I can wear into the fall. What I had the hardest time finding was the skirt I had in my head. I was determined I wanted this one particular style skirt. It might have had something to do with the 30 something Mom blue jean skirt I once wore looking like an old maid. I wanted something more fashionable and eye catching. The day finally came when I found it. Yes, I could not believe I found exactly what I had envisioned in my mind. It was at a little shop called Versona. I quickly ran into the dressing room and slipped it own. Looked up in the mirror and said – Oh My Gosh, this looks terrible! Sadden, I slipped it off and left in heartbreak because I had thought about this skirt all spring. A few weeks later I was still thinking about this skirt. It hit me that why can’t I make it what I want it to be? The skirt was long and hit my shin area so at 5’2″ I looked like a dwarf. I decided I could have it tailored and it could be shortened to be exactly what I wanted. Fingers crossed I went back to the store to feverishly look for this blue jean skirt and there it was on sale! WOW what a find. It had been drastically marked down to under $10 dollars. I mean God is so good right ladies? This was a huge relief because I have recently been doing my own alterations because the price has gotten so high. I am not about to pay $25 dollars to hem a skirt that cost me under $10. I took a deep breath and cut thinking well if I mess it up then I have not lost a lot. After hemming it the perfect for me knee length, I looked in the mirror and there it was the look I had envisioned in my head. It looks so good and I have gotten so many compliments on it.

One last comment I must share about fashion, especially for women over 50, I am not an expert. I learn something all the time about everything – even clothes. The biggest thing I have learned is stay in your lane meaning if you are over 50 – do not try to look 30 or 40 but do not try to look 50 or 60. I know this is a crazy statement which makes no sense to some of you or maybe it does. I am over 50. I still wonder into stores my daughter likes such as H&M and to see what I can find, but I am smart enough to know I have to look at items that work for my age without making me look like a lady of the night or a grandmother! Understand? Find that middle spot that makes you feel elegant and age appropriate. You don’t have to look your age (I’m trying not to) but you don’t have to look ridiculous either. If you don’t have a daughter to tell you NO, maybe you have a BFF who will tell you – unless her style sucks! LOL – then you might be in trouble but you know what I mean. Find that one honest person who loves you enough to want you to always look your best. I hope this hasn’t offended anyone. I said I would be honest in my blog posts and from this you can consider me your friend because I am telling you the truth.
On a side note about being honest, I recently told a new client from Texas she needed a shopping day with me. I did! I thought about it for a few days and then I had to tell her. I was like “I need to take you to Chicos and help you pick out some outfits to liven you up.” (I can’t even wear Chicos the clothes don’t fit me but she looked like a perfect match for the Chicos style). She looked at me puzzled as she stood there wearing a man’s white Polo shirt and black leggings. This woman has enough money to never work again but she has no children or girlfriends to shop with so she never goes shopping. She reached over and gave me a hug. She told me that was exactly what she needed to hear from someone who cared about her. She has felt so old and she is just a little over 60. I believe in empowering women especially with words of encouragement even when it comes to clothes. I was not about to let her leave me without telling her she was so beautiful and to play her best self to bring out her true spirit. She admitted to me she had been depressed so there you go. I think this was just what she needed to hear. I know I may get a lot of “Women Libbers” who will tell me to be ashamed of myself for telling her she needs a fashion makeover, but I am not ashamed. I am a “Woman Lover” meaning I love to lift women up to be their best self and fashion is only one way of doing that. I try to make everyday a fashion show because it makes me feel good about me! God Bless!

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