If God told you to do something…

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Well, I had to read my last post to remember where I left off.  And as I imagined, I am starting where it seems to be the right place.  First of all, remember me telling you about the new real estate company I went to work for that was not at all what I thought it would be?  Well, after 4 months, I canned it.  Yes, I am too old to put up with too much BS!  Let me say it again louder – BS!!!.  Anyway, I canned it.  I just could not allow myself to tolerate working in an environment I did not believe it, and you know the funny part is they did not even ask why I was leaving.  Geez!  How do you get better or fix an issue if you don’t ask?  I guess they did not care which was fine by me because I would have been glad to tell them.

So let’s talk about how this came to be.  I awoke on a Thursday morning at 6:00 am already thinking about how I was dreading to go to the office.  I started to pray and ask God to tell me what to do.  I had decided a few years ago I would stop doing anything that did not make me happy because life is to short to be miserable – another thing you realize as you get older.  As I stood in my kitchen praying.  I heard the loud voice of God say “Do it yourself!” It was clear as day and so loud I could not deny he said it.  I know you might not believe me but if you are a Christian and you listen – you will hear God talk to you.  This is something that I just started recognizing a few years ago.  I look back and realize God has always told me things but I did not know it was him speaking to me.  I thought it was me thinking these things myself – NO – I am not crazy.

Let me give you an example.  You see a homeless man standing on the street and you look at him and think to yourself – “There is a homeless man.”  That is a thought you put in your own head. If you see a homeless man and you are looking at him and all of a sudden you reach into your pocketbook and think I need to give him money – and you kinda know you don’t really have a lot of money but you are thinking about it so you do it.  That is God talking to you.  Any thought you know you are thinking is you.  Any thought in your mind that you know you did not put there and it just appeared in your head is God talking to you.  Does that make sense?  I sure hope so.  If it does, then maybe you have heard God talking to you and you did not know it.  I know I heard things like this a lot and never realized it was God talking to me until several things happened that could not be denied which he told me and they turned out to be true.  – Another story for later.

So as he said the words – “Do it yourself.”- I decided I would do exactly what he told me to do and start my own real estate company.  This has been a long time dream of mine but the last few years I had kind of just decided it would never happen.  There has been just too much going on in my life that did not seen to be working out.  But on this particular Thursday, I decided if God told me to do it I could not fail.  So I got on the phone and got the ball rolling and in 48 hours I had a company name filed with the Secretary of State, IRS number, Logo, Sign Designs, etc.  It was freaking crazy!  I mean Crazy!  I could not believe how much had happened to get my new company up and running in two days.  By the end of the first week, I had leased an office, had a sign made, got a corporate bank account, and started marketing my new company.  I was shocked – Totally shocked.  I could not believe I had done all of this myself.  It has been like a whirlwind.

For the past month, I have been so excited because I know God has given me a plan and I know in my heart I am going to be great and have the ability to do great things for a lot of people – agents, customers, and clients.  The issue is now that the first month is over and things are supposed to be ramping up, why do I feel they are just standing still?  I joined the Women Entrepreneurs of Charleston so I can interact with other female business owners and I can’t wait to ask them are my feelings normal?  Do you feel like you are on a high and then you just fall flat?  Where do I go from here?  I have interviewed a few potential agents but everyone I have talked to has their own needs such as not really working the business full time, they need tons of training, they want to be in the administrative area and not sell.  I felt a little let down by all of the personal issues I keep hearing.  How do I stay excited and share my message of loving people, helping people, and being someone they can trust because there are so many shady real estate agents in this world – even in my area. Sad to say but true.  I know in my heart how good I am and how much I care.  The past few days I have been feeling like what did I do!  Was this the right thing?  I am trying not to doubt God told me to do this.  To have faith in the purpose God has given me, but I feel no one cares about the purpose.  They just care about the themselves.

I mean money is extremely important.  We need it to live – pay bills, etc.  But life is about helping people – right?  Or at least that is what I believe.  I always seem to give more than I get in the deal.  Or if I get a lot, I have definitely put up with a lot and by the time the property closes it is like getting paid minimum wage.  You definitely have to love what you do no matter what it is.  I need prayers for my business, my life, and anything else you can swing my way.  I always try to do the best I can and be the best person I can be but it gets hard.  Am I wrong for taking another leap of faith and going with what God has told me to do?  OR – was this really a thought in my own head put there by me and now I am confused by thinking it was from God?

My word last year was Patience.  God gave me this word and I held on to it all year.  I kept telling myself I would learn how to be patient and believe me it was hard and it still is hard.  This year in January I asked God for another word and he told me Abundance.  I thought why am I getting this word in my head when I know there will never been abundance of anything in my life – not that I believe.  But that was my word and I accepted it.  I kind of felt I would wait to claim this word because I was very skeptical about how this word would play out.  Then now, he tells me to Do it Yourself and here I am with a new company and thinking what do I do now?  Is this where the word abundance comes in?  Abundance in what Lord?  Money?  Problems? People in my life?  Making my mark to give back to the world in some way?  I have no clue.

What are your thoughts?  I could really use some advice.  Do you or can you relate to hearing God talk to you and how has it worked out for you?  I would love to hear from you.  Prayers appreciated.  You know I came back on my blog today to delete it thinking I don’t have time for it anymore and I just need to stop but was surprised by an increase in followers.  WOW – thank you – someone is reading my words.  I can never guarantee I will have the answer to anything or be witty or funny.  I just write what I write and hope it touches someone’s life or mind.  God Bless – and if you are ever in my area and need a real estate service, I know a really great Realtor.  : )  Thanks for reading my blog and praying for me.

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Life is not a box of Chocolates. This is Real Life People!

WOW – Can you believe it has been three months since I wrote on my Blog?  I have thought about it many times but things have been so hectic that I just felt I did not have enough time to relax and write.  So I am up in the middle of the night at 4:00 am writing now.

No, I did not get up to specifically to write on my Blog.  I woke up with things on my mind and decided to have a cup of decaf coffee.  That is what you do when you get older.  You start doing things you thought you would never do.  Recently I did something that was quiet a shock to me.  I went to Barnes & Noble to look for a couple of books.  I was looking for something with mystery or romance but ended up leaving with a book on how to detox from sugar and a Find a Word book.  Really!  A freaking Find a Work book?  I can not even believe I bought this for myself.  Still in shock!  As soon as I laid it on my coffee table, I knew it had happened.  I was starting to get the house look of an old person.  My step mother has this same coffee table look.  WOW – a little devastating I must say and a definite sign my life is boring.  I need to work on that for sure.  So let’s catch up from my last post.

Well, remember my Christmas Kiss?  Unfortunately, the mystery man left my life as quick as he came into my life.   We had two dates and they were fantastic.  I felt so comfortable with him and we talked for hours about so many things.  He kept in touch through the holidays and on News Years Day he sent me a picture of his children on the slopes skying during their Christmas vacation…then poof he was gone.  No texts or calls – nothing.  I texted him a couple of times and he never texted back.  I have no idea what happened.  For a couple of weeks I wondered was it something I did?  But looking back, it was just too perfect.  I did nothing wrong.  I have accepted the fact that although I wanted it to last longer he had something he needed to do.  Whether is was meeting someone else or just life getting in the way.  It had nothing to do with me.  I chose to not take upon myself any responsibility for his disappearance.  It was just him.  I just wonder why God would bring him in my life and take him out of my life just as fast?  Maybe it was just to give me that Christmas Kiss I longed for as a gift.  If that is the case, I appreciate it.  It was nice.

Another thing I have been dealing with is a new company.  Have you ever wondered what is the right thing to do when it comes to where to work?  I changed real estate companies in December and from the start I was unsure if this was the right place for me.  I felt it was a door that was opened – not by me – but one that had come to me.  I guess I am crazy because I think things like the mystery man or this new company coming to me is a sign of something bigger.  I thought it was a sign of God’s path for me but now I am not so sure.  As a Christian, I am always looking for God’s sign or listening for God to tell me something.  Yes – I do hear him tell me things.  I know it sounds crazy and I would have never believed it myself if I had not experienced it.  I guess it takes getting older to understand the way to hear God is to learn to listen.  Now I wonder if this was God’s voice or just people coming into my life for their own needs – needing me to help them fulfill their needs if only for a moment.  Who knows?

Well, this new company was supposed to be the answer to my prayers I thought.  I guess I expected too much and we all know when that happens we have set ourselves up for disappointment because you have no place to go but down when you have high expectations about anything in life.  This may be true for my new company.  The owner asked me what are my two deal breakers.  I said, 1.) Not being treated fairly and 2.) Not being able to trust the people I work with.  BAM!  Both of the deal breakers have already happened in less than 90 days.  This too has been a shock and disappointment for me but I am staying to try to give it more time to change.  I guess the saying “Not everything on the outside is as it seems” is very true.  Even at my age, I am constantly learning lessons and hoping one day I get a box of chocolates all filled inside with caramel.

I guess my biggest questions is when you try to do the right thing and work hard, “Why does it take so long for things to get better?”  Sorry if I am sounding like “Poor Pitiful Me”.  I really have so much to be thankful for and I thank God everyday for his many blessings but…  I guess I should not say the word “but” in the same sentence as I use the word God : / – Yikes.  But – how long do you have to wait for things to change?  I know everyone says it is in God’s timing.  I understand this and believe this…  But my goodness…how long is that?  I live my life in constant prayer for everything that happens to me and my loved ones – not to mention everyone in this world.  Again, I know I have a lot to be thankful for but there are things my heart desires like a life partner and financial security.  I think we all long for those two basic needs – right? Patience is something I have been trying to stay focused on while learning to stay calm and holding on to the Bible verse Jeremiah 29:11 – For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.  Amen I say!

My Dad’s 84th birthday is this coming week – March 12.  He married my step-mother when he was 60 years old.  I have several years before I get to be 60 – God willing.  So I know there is hope, but I remember him saying – this world is not a world for single people.  You go to church and sit alone because everyone else is in twos.  You don’t fit in as a single person.  I always thought that was sad but now I see it is true.  The world is made for twos.  I guess that is why God made Eve for Adam.  The Bible says that God saw Adam was lonely and needed a partner so he created Eve.  I will continue to wait and pray and have faith – faith of the mustard seed.  If you do not know what this means, you need to look it up.  A little faith is all you need – just a little.  I will take what has become my the size of a mustard seed and wait for my Christian husband to show up.  Fingers crossed.

Now, let’s talk about children.  I know I have a lot on my mind at 4:00 am in the morning.  Sorry!  Well, as you know I have two beautiful and wonderful adult children.  My adult relationship with them is very different from when they were growing up.  When they were small, they loved and respected me.  I did everything for them and I was their parent.  Now they are grown and I don’t have to do anything for them.  They are independent as it should be but this has created a much different relationship.  I know they still know I am their parent but it has turned into sort of like more of a friendship.  I wonder sometimes do they even realize I am still their parent?

My daughter and I get along pretty much great.  We have had our moments but overall I see she still respects me and sees me as her parent.  She still says “Yes – Mam”, and she calls or texts me everyday which I love, but my son has gotten very different.  He had some personal struggles I helped him with for a few years but now he is doing fantastic.  I am proud of both of my children.  I really am a proud mother but my son is the one who I am the most proud because he has totally changed his life for the better.  He has some alcohol issues and now that is completely out of his life.  Thank you God!  I am telling you, nothing is more worrisome or hurtful than dealing with something like that. I am just so thankful that he is released from that life.  He is doing awesome.

My daughter has always been a blessing to me and always been my sweet girl.  She is my mini-me.  I always knew she would be a superstar.  My son was the one I worried about because he was always rebelling and can be very hard-headed.  He thinks he knows everything.  Now he is successful and doing great.  He recently told me he was the head of the family because he made the most money and I needed to respect his place as head of our family as well as a lot of other things I won’t even get into.  This has dis-stressed me because I realized he doesn’t see me as his parent anymore.  It was like he was saying “I am the leader”.  I kinda felt bullied a little bit.  I even told him – NO!  I am your mother and you will not forget it.  I am not sure if all the years of him having personal struggles and now being in such a great place has gone to his head and made him forget who was the one who stood by him and picked up the pieces?  I am both of my children’s biggest cheerleader but I am not going to stand on the side line and be treated like a second class citizen because he makes more money than I do!

I am not looking to be constantly thanked for anything I have done for them, but I am looking to be respected and appreciated.  Being the primary care given, whether it is taking care of someone or just being their mother or father is a hard job.  Yes, I was married to their Dad until they were in college but I never had any help from him – financially or emotionally.  I was still a single parent.  This adult children relationship is sometimes tough.  I see now what I may have put my mother though.  They often (or I should say my son) think they know it all.  At church this past Sunday, I lit a candle for my son to become humble and kind.  This world can change you and sometimes not for the good.  He is so sweet and loving when he wants to be – : ) – but lately he has been so all about himself.  I know God is watching and I pray he is working on him to see his actions are hurtful and this is not the way to have a happy life.

So what is?  What is the way to have a happy life?  I have no clue.  I do know that I used to wake up everyday thinking is this the day I am going to be happy?  And by the end of the day, it was just another day.  Why?  Well, I do know the answer to this question.  Happiness is not a way of life.  It is an emotion.  Just like sadness passes so will happiness.  What we need to look for and try to achieve in our life is a state of contentment.  Just a way to wake up everyday and be content with the people we are around, our environment, our job, and definitely our life choices.  If we can learn to do this we will be in a state of contentment which means that we are okay.  We will find happiness in our day whether it is laughter with a friend at lunch or just hearing the birds chirp.  We will be at peace in our hearts and minds and possibly live a stress free life or at least as less stressed life.  That is the key to having a longer – notice I said longer – state of happiness.  I strive for that everyday.  I keep telling myself that I control my day and my choices of who I want to be around and what I want to do for the most part.  I control this and so do you.  Well – thanks for allowing me to catch up, and I hope to write again soon.  God Bless!


The Christmas Kiss

Well, Hello There!  It has been a while since I have had the time to write on my blog – forgive me if you were wondering what I had been up to lately.  Well, I have been very busy getting my systems and procedures in place for 2018.  It is going to be a fantastic year!  I am chillin today as you can tell from my photo above.  Giving myself a chance to rest.

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Tis the Season to be Jolly…


Recently I toured my local Pier One Imports store (www.pier1.com) for holiday decorating ideas and got quiet a few good ones.  I decided to use the pictures I took on my Instagram and to write my blog about simple decorating ideas for the holidays to bring beauty to your home should your home be “on the market” for sale during the holiday season; but this morning as I was collecting my thoughts about what I had planned to say, I went back to where I was last Christmas.  I decided to share my real life experience along with some decorating ideas.  What better way to get to know me – Right?  So here goes…  Continue reading

Who Says I Can’t Wear OTK Boots?

OTK Boots

A day of shopping at the mall was centered around looking for shoes.  As I have written on my blog before, my shoes have to be comfortable and my feet have to be happy and pretty.  HA.  I have somewhat gotten addicted to the Over The Knee (OTK) boots.  Somewhat meaning I love the way they look but have struggled with whether or not they were for me being a woman over 50.  OTK boots have been around for a very long time but until this year I have never really even given them a second thought.  Because of Instagram, I am paying more attention this year.   Continue reading



This is the face of a woman who was also Sexually Harassed.  #METOO!

I almost started not to write this blog but decided I should.  It is time for our voices to be heard and stand together as women against Sexual Harassment.  I guess the reason for my delay in writing was based on my warped thought process of thinking, “I am not a movie star, tv star, public personality etc.” but when I think longer and harder about it, I realize I am a woman who has had to endure sexual harassment in her lifetime.  This should have never been the case but it was.  And…it happened.

I look back to my middle 30s, when I worked in Corporate America, for a well known – down South textile company – I won’t name because it doesn’t matter anymore.  I had worked my tail off for this company for 14 years climbing up the ladder to make more money to take care of my family.  Going to finish my college degree at night – 6 1/2 years to graduating with honors and being promoted over night to a higher paying job in the Corporate Headquarters.  I thought I had finally arrived.  I had finally made it and everything was going to be roses.  Not true!

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Having Millennial Age Children


Well, it has happened.  The precious smiling faces of my children above have finally made me feel old and ready to be kicked to the curb.  Now I know you may be thinking “What?” and maybe I am exaggerating some – but some days I don’t think I am.  Recently, I had the “pleasure” (said sarcastically) of having the flu.  Both of my children were too busy with their own lives to even stop by to bring soup or anything else.  My son, who has turned into a workaholic, didn’t even call.  My daughter, who is almost as bad about her job, called and asked once how was I feeling and all other calls were about her job.

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